Well, howdy. I’m learning the blogging game and having been writing blogs on and off for several years. Honestly working on my skills, my content, my myself, and living life. My first blog beautifullifeofgrace @blogspot was my first beginnings. A way to share my heart and love for life. Cultivate started as a motivational blog to encourage and uplift others to go after their goals and dreams all while pursuing mine. Continue reading
In a place where some might say you’re too over-bearing, too mouthy, too quiet, invisible, not strong enough, less than… Father God says you are more than enough and then some. Created in His image, made to stand out and he’s not ashamed of your character flaws, then why should you be. Instead of focusing on your flaws, focus on your attributes. You are strong, brave, willing to take the risk, wise, observant, kind, loyal, and a warrior. Be free to be you. #cultivateyourlife #changeyourmindset #befreetobeyou
If I want to grow, then I can not be afraid of change.
When I was a young girl, the only thing I knew for sure, was that change was going to happen. I remember moving around every four years due to my parent’s occupation. I lived in Texas,California , Illinois, and Arkansas. I remember being excited about the adventures and yet when it finally came, we didn’t know how to deal with the changes.
Last post, I admit, I complained. In the midst of a weak and weary moment, I just wanted to rant again to my pain I was feeling. Today, I am still physically tired, although during Sunday worship, I got a new charge and a change in a mindset. Sometimes it takes one moment, when the Father corrects you. In His gentle and loving kindness, He reminds me that His nature, should be mine. Continue reading
I have goals. Dreams. And I am in full force trying to take action for each of them. Finances, health, and relationships. I am learning new things, trying what works, and getting myself ready for breakthrough.
Since October of last year, I have been working on growing our business with my husband. Seeing things we need to make it better, what works and what doesn’t. Its time consuming and yet, I have fully enjoyed seeing all the new things come into the spotlight. Well… most of it.
However, I am tired. Continue reading
“He who has the most hope wins!”
Hope is the constant expectation that something good is coming. Its not a fingers-crossed wish. It doesn’t look at the circumstances, but the fact that God is good and He is always working things out for us. Faith says, ” I KNOW I have it.” I don’t have to waver on if I do, but rather that I know its mine. I love it!
I literally can’t help it now; I can not be without hope. If I am hopeless, then I am looking at the wrong master. Father God should always be in my vision and then, I know, it will all be alright. I absolutely love this subject. It gears me up, and sets me again to know I can not lose.
Psalms 31:24 – Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all you who hope in the Lord.
Taking time to process through the pain is important. Sometimes we don’t want to feel it or believe it’s there, we aren’t being vulnerable with ourselves. I see it, I feel it, and I trust the Father that He walks me through it. Then when it’s over, I can say, He is my deliver.
We don’t have to deny our feelings. That just tells us there is work we need to do inside of us. Like a check engine light. Often time we try to ignore it, but it can’t fix itself. We have to get under the hood and do regular maintenance. When our heart is exposed to pain or hurting, don’t try to ignore it. Don’t bring out the duck tape (quick fix), be brave and fully embrace what is wrong. And don’t be afraid to take it to a mechanic. Sometimes we can’t fix it alone.
Imagine yourself riding a roller coaster…it slowly climbs up, and up, and up. Each clack of the track pushing to the top. As you reach the top there is a brief pause, you wait…anticipating, bracing yourself… excitement builds as you hear the release of pressure in the tracks under you. You are about to have a trilling journey of fun and exhilaration!
This is you now, in your new season. Your goals and your dreams. This is you with Papa God. It’s seems slow and steadfast, and maybe you’re a little unsure and nervous. Don’t be. Wait patiently because as you reach the top and you hear a release from Heaven, then…right then will you see all He has for you. You will begin an exhilarating journey with the Father that will bring joy and fill your heart with destiny.
All you have to do is get on.
So you are gaining momentum in chasing your goals? Everything is great and you are kicking butt!
And then… something throws you off. What now? Continue reading
The Things We Did Right
Cultivating love between to people takes work. It’s choosing that person every single day, again and again. Even when tempers flare and life becomes over involved. Even when they misbehave and need help. You can become a better couple today.
Today is my anniversary, and we love to make it feel special. Last year, my wonderful husband worked extra hard and finally took me on my honeymoon. We went to Hawaii. Although we aren’t going to any place extravagant this year, we will celebrate us for sure.
I always feel sentimental in our milestones and victories. After all, we could have been a statistic but choose to deny the odds.
He and I had our hard times. If I really try we can remember the ugliness of our past. Where we came from, the stuff that creeps in, and everything in between. We aren’t perfect and still have things we need to work out, and do not always communicate in the best manner when things get heated, but over the years we know we have done some things right.
We were young when we married. That defies odds. We felt that even when our families did not approve of our union, we had each other. We decided to never allow the “D” word in our vocabulary with each other because we are better together than apart. We have a staying factor. Everything is trivial compared to what God has for us to do. We are not going to let the enemy destroy what God has put together.
We do not stay mad long. If we get upset with each other and even if it takes a few days. We will make up because we love our connection. We value our friendship and oneness, we know that we not only choose each other, but we complete each other. (I have to admit, my husband is a better forgiver than me.) So I am thankful for grace.
We have fun together. We had to really learn this. My idea of fun may be a shopping trip and his idea of fun is a thrill seeking adventure. So we often have to compromise or find things we can do together. I love that about us. Sometimes it works out, and sometimes it does not. But at least we tried.
We reminisce a lot. Not about the bad things. That is always easy to do. We laugh about our innocence of not knowing. Our adventure in life together and we often know what worked and what did not.
But we talk about falling in love with each other and the fun we had.
It’s the encounters that made our life worth every risk. Sometimes it worked out and other times we chalk it up to stupidity.
We choose to remember the good and because of this, we have a great relationship.
We are on the same team. There is no one I would rather pick than him. We laugh together. We serve each other. We remember that every disagreement is not worth lost connection (even if it took longer to realize that.) We are better together than we are apart.
If you are in a relationship, you can cultivate love everyday for your spouse. Stop looking at their flaws. Tell them you believe in them. Tell them that whatever their going through, you can do it together. It is not your job to fix your spouse! You can only work on you. Grow you and love your spouse. Remind yourself of who they really are. Kiss your spouse. Invest in your marriage. It’s worth it and its needed. Learn how to communicate better. Learn to forgive. Everyday will give you a reason not to connect, but be intentional about connection with them.
I know every day may be a struggle. I know that each relationship is different. But I also know that any situation can be worked out. There is always hope. We have to be willing to do the work.
So from James and I… Have a prosperous marriage!