I Don’t Do Guilt Trips

I don’t do guilt trips. I am a busy mom, wife, entrepreneur, minister, and all the other things crammed into my amazing full life. As much as I love to give my time and energy into doing things for people, I will not perform from guilt or shame. My goal is to love the best I can and sometimes I have to say no. Sometimes, I have to choose who I can help and when. Although I would love to do it all. ( and I would), for the sake of my sanity, I need to decline. That is ok. I love better when I get to be me. But please don’t try to get me to live according to your needs or standards. Please don’t try to persuade me to do something because you feel entitled. I can no longer live like that. In pursuit of my best life and a life full of joy, I choose to continue to love you and others well because, I give my time and energy from love not for it. ❤️#cultivateyourlife #guilt #shame #empowerment #moms #wives #love #joy #lifestyle #peace #jesus

Surrendered

Fully Surrendered.

Each of us has been in pursuit of a dream. The bible says “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when the desire comes, it is the tree of life.” Proverbs 13:12

Our hearts can get heavy waiting. Waiting for the breakthrough, waiting for a glimpse of the dream, waiting for all of the pieces you are holding to come together and create the life you are going after. Continue reading

BE

 

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God instructed Joshua to go take the land which He promised His people. He said, ” BE strong and BE courageous” Not act like… not try… or even fake it til you make it. He said BE. We are children of God, our DNA is to BE His children. So whatever your going after. Whatever dreams your believing for. Whatever breakthrough your working through.

BE strong and courageous. In return, His promise is that HE will BE with us wherever we go.     

Joshua 1:9 

 

Be Free to be you 

In a place where some might say you’re too over-bearing, too mouthy, too quiet, invisible, not strong enough, less than… Father God says you are more than enough and then some. Created in His image, made to stand out and he’s not ashamed of your character flaws, then why should you be. Instead of focusing on your flaws,  focus on your attributes. You are strong, brave, willing to take the risk, wise, observant, kind, loyal, and a warrior. Be free to be you. #cultivateyourlife #changeyourmindset #befreetobeyou

His Burden is Easy

 

Last post, I admit, I complained. In the midst of a weak and weary moment, I just wanted to rant again to my pain I was feeling. Today, I am still physically tired, although during Sunday worship, I got a new charge and a change in a mindset.  Sometimes it takes one moment, when the Father corrects you. In His gentle and loving kindness, He reminds me that His nature, should be mine. Continue reading

Just a check up…

Taking time to process through the pain is important. Sometimes we don’t want to feel it or believe it’s there, we aren’t being vulnerable with ourselves. I see it, I feel it, and I trust the Father that He walks me through it. Then when it’s over, I can say, He is my deliver.

We don’t have to deny our feelings. That just tells us there is work we need to do inside of us. Like a check engine light. Often time we try to ignore it, but it can’t fix itself. We have to get under the hood and do regular maintenance. When our heart is exposed to pain or hurting, don’t try to ignore it. Don’t bring out the duck tape (quick fix), be brave and fully embrace what is wrong. And don’t be afraid to take it to a mechanic. Sometimes we can’t fix it alone.

If I Could Be Anything ( Getting Rid of Titles)

 

We live in a society and world that needs and desires titles to identify who we are. As children, we get ranked into title from birth, “First, middle, only, and the baby of the family.” As Student we get titled into the “Intellectual”, “the overachiever”, “the class clown”, or even “the trouble maker”.  As a college graduate, we know the pressures that determine the status of our degree and the importance of a good career goal. We can all agree that we have been called or have been categorized into one of these, or something similar. But what if these titles didn’t exist. What would define us? Continue reading